Successful relationships are largely based on trust. Basically that means: I trust you because I trust in my choice. If you are my choice, as my partner, I, naturally, want to feel good about the choice that I made to be with you.
Thus,trust in your partner is directly connected to person’s feelings of self-worth and self-esteem. Contrary to the popular belief, trust is not only earned. It is also a consciously made decision to trust another person, without asking it to be earned. Constantly doubting one’s intentions is destructive to any relationship and, as a result, negatively impact the very core of intimacy, the feelings of loving, being loved and supported. What differentiate a strong, long term relationship from a dysfunctional relationship is the capacity of both partners to prioritize the important goals and plans by overcoming the day to day life challenges, doubts and distractions.
Lack of trust that your partner is having the best intentions in mind for your marriage or your relationship affects both partners just as strongly. Relationships without trust are less successful and ultimately destined to fail.